Living With Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia

by Stephanie Brail

When you first find out you have chronic fatigue syndrome or fibromyalgia, you may be overwhelmed and confused with how to adjust your life to deal with your illness. Even after some time, it's easy to feel frustrated and alone.

Adjust Your Lifestyle
Depending on the severity of your CFS, you may need to make radical adjustments in your life. This may include leaving a full-time job to work part-time or from home. It may also mean a reduction in income and an increase in medical expenses. Be gentle with yourself. Don't expect to do it all and be it all.

How you craft a lifestyle to support your health will be individual. Here are some suggested lifestyle adjustments:

Find a job with flexible hours. Being able to take a nap in the middle of the day may be crucial to your health. Sleeping in after a night of insomnia may not mesh with a strict boss who expects employees to appear at 8 a.m. sharp, no exceptions.

Plan time for rest, especially after strenuous activity. If you know you are going to be doing something physically or mentally exhausting, plan time for rest after the event. Also make sure you leave time for rest periods as part of your normal routine.

Lower expectations. You may not be able to keep the house as tidy as you used to, but realize getting your rest is more important than a perfectly ordered home.

Delegate what you can. Get family members to help out. Hire a cleaning service to do deep cleaning for you once a month (many commercial cleaning services and individual maids are actually quite affordable).

Find Ways to Nurture Yourself
Because your family and friends may not be supportive, or may not know how to fully support you even if they are trying, it's up to you to take care of yourself. This can be difficult when you are tired and filled with brain fog or joint pain, so keep it simple.

Take a bath. A therapeutic bath with scented bath salts can help relieve aches and pains as well as sooth the soul.

Watch TV. Television gets demonized so much, it seems, but if you are bedridden or having a day where you can't do much, TV can be a wonderful tool to take your mind off your physical distress. Watch programs that make you feel good (even if it's a guilty pleasure like a bad horror flick). Take the opportunity to travel to places you might not be able to otherwise through the magic of film.

Go for a walk. When you are feeling better, take a gentle walk outside (when the weather is nice). The sunlight and fresh air can help improve certain symptoms as well as lift the spirit.

Find an online community. If you are feeling alone and misunderstood, you might consider finding a supportive online community of PWCs (people with chronic fatigue syndrome). By reaching out and connecting with others who have the illness, you can make friends, get support, and learn additional coping strategies.

Don't Expect Family or Friends to Understand
The sad truth is that many people have the mistaken impression that chronic fatigue syndrome is the same kind of fatigue they have after a long day at work. Others may believe (without telling you outright) that you are perhaps just being lazy or malingering.

Those around you may be even more skeptical when they see you and you happen to look good or have energy. What they may not realize is that CFS and fibromyalgia symptoms often come and go in waves. You may have days and times of day where you are better and more refreshed. This does not dismiss the times when you are experiencing an extreme flare-up of symptoms.

Friends and family may be seem to be unsupportive, but usually it's just because they don't fully understand the illness. There's no definitive way to deal with this, other than to try to educate them.

Try to educate. Direct family members to websites like this one, so they can learn about chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia.

Don't overpromise. When you have an illness like chronic fatigue syndrome, it's hard to tell in advance how you might be feeling on a given day. There may be times you will have to miss someone's birthday party or gathering because your symptoms are flaring up that day (or even those few hours!). Prepare your friends and family by explaining that you may or may not attend depending on how you are feeling at the time.

Be patient. This can be very difficult, especially when a parent is admonishing you to get a full-time day job when you know that working from home is better for your health. Try to explain your situation without getting defensive, but be gentle with yourself no matter how you react. Remember, fatigue can make you cranky!

Stay Positive
No matter what anyone tells you, having chronic fatigue syndrome or fibromyalgia is very, very tough. Platitudes to just "make the best of it" and "keep a stiff upper lip" can be very frustrating to hear when you aren't feeling well. So how can you stay positive when your body seems to be conspiring against you?

Find ways to laugh. Laughter, as they say, can be the best medicine. Find ways to find humor in the every day. Don't take yourself too seriously. Lighten up as much as possible.

Turn to spirituality. While not everyone is spiritual, for many spirituality is a source of comfort during difficult times. Spiritual networks can also provide personal support and inspiration.

Surround yourself with loving, positive people. Chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia can be very taxing, and so it is doubly important to surround yourself with people who uplift instead of drain.

Find What Works For You
Because everyone experiences CFS and fibromyalgia differently and at various levels of intensity, ultimately you will have to create a lifestyle that works best with your condition. Take your time, be patient, and know that adjustments along the way are part of the process.


I was introduced to Dr. Steve Willen, DC, whose office is in Greensboro, NC, while attending a fibro support group. I was quite skeptical and felt that a Chiropractor could not possible help me. I WAS TOTALLY WRONG. Dr. Willen treats with a combination of detoxification and supplementation. Within three weeks I went from setting on the sofa in constant, severe pain and not being able to sleep to resting well at night without waking up and being practically pain-free. The treatment is AFFORDABLE. There is an 85% success rate, and those who don't get relief, in my opinion, do not follow the program. My husband says that he has his wife back, and I can now pick up by grandbabies without fear of hurting afterward. I am using my hands and have now taken a new job. PLEASE find relief, and I would absolutely suggest calling his office at 336-855-8560. or see the website at He and his staff are very kind... And I have my life back.

I want to share my success with all of the visitors of this site. Getting my juniper training cert has never been easier. I tried it on my own, and in a class through New Horizons. Using just books was too hard, and the class was too expensive. But the sites related to the exams such as test king with its dumps make it easier for me. Now I have passed my mcdba training as well as the mcdst training and preparing my self for the mcitp training. Success is not far from me.

mcpd training
mcsa training
mcse training
mcts training

microsoft training
network+ training
oracle training
pmi training

I am very glad to know that your site is upgrading from the simplest to more faster and synchronized form. I am quite familiar of a lot of sites since I work as a freelance writer and one of the sites that cpa | lsat test | ccie dumps I find evolve is your site respectively. I am looking more on your site progress as well as new version that is more convenient and helpful to the members like me. I really appreciate the move that you made.mcitp certification | ccent practice exam | gre practice test | asvab study guide | mcse certification

I like your post its remove informative and i love to visit you again as you Have done a wonderful job. i love to bookmark this site and send it to Other Would friends to read it and visit it to get upto date information and quite interesting web hosting reviewsI like the way You are working, keep it up, i E20-001 \\ 640-553 will be here again as i get some time from budget web hosting Because They Make Me services little busy, But i would love to stuck here again shared web hosting. Thanks for nice sharing information with us.
000-107 \\ 220-702 \\ 350-018 \\ 000-119 \\ 642-832 \\ 642-617 \\ 312-50 \\ N10-004

This post is really the sweetest on this notable topic. I harmonize with your conclusions and will thirstily look forward to your incoming updates. Saying thanks will not just be sufficient, for the braindumps\a+ braindumps\ase certification\avaya certification\ccda certification\ccent practice exam\ccia\ccie certification phenomenal clarity in your writing. I will directly grab your rss feed to stay informed of any updates. Admirable work and much success in your business dealings!? Please excuse my poor English as it is not my first tongue.
MichaeL || NYC.USA

The idea of "distributions" and "projects" doesn't appeal very much to me, at least if I am not sure that after installing that distribution I still have a standard Drupal installation with which i can do whatever I like. This is why I have never considered Open Publish or Tattler, at least not for flexible projects that need customization. Perhaps if I had one specific project (like an online journal) and I found a perfect distribution for my project I would use it, but not as a customizable solution for a varied community...
70-433 dumps | PK0-003 dumps | 6401-1 dumps | 642-072 dumps | 642-241 dumps | 1Y0-A21 dumps | 000-108 dumps | 000-968 dumps |

The main idea of online shopping is not just in having a good looking website that could be listed in a lot of search engines or the art behind the site. It also is not only just about disseminating information, because it is also about building relationships and making money. N10-004 dumps / 642-617 dumps / EX0-101 dumps / E20-001 dumps / 156-215.71 dumps / 642-447 dumps / 642-982 dumps / 000-979 dumps Mostly, organizations try to adopt techniques of online shopping without understanding these techniques and/or without a sound business model. Rather than supporting the organization's culture and brand name, the website should satisfy consumer's expectations.

Pretty cool post. It’s really very nice and useful post.Thanks for sharing this with us!it’s my first visit. Another great post, I appreciate all the work you put into this site, helping out others with your fun and creative works.
1Y0-A15 / 117-101 / F50-533 / E20-361 / 9A0-150 / 199-01 / 1D0-510 / 1z0-050

Though the cause of this medical disorder is unknown, I am still hoping that this illness won't be as dreadful as malignant neoplasm. I am currently studying fibromyalgia syndrome for my term papers.