Fans of The Secret: Don't Blame the Victim
I was at an EFT seminar yesterday. Overall, the seminar was very well done, but I was a bothered by how much this "Law of Attraction" meme has begun to infect the self-help world. The teacher, an avowed fan of The Secret, spent quite a bit of time explaining how the world was our "mirror" and if anything bad happened to us, it's because we created it inside first.
A woman in the audience shared with everyone how she was afraid to be successful because she had been the victim of an attack due to being attractive. Since that attack, she has downplayed her looks and tried to be less noticeable.
The teacher, in response to this, led everyone through an EFT exercise, in which he had us all state something along the lines "If I have been attacked, it's because I was attacking myself."
I was very disturbed by this. I have no idea if this woman's attack had been a rape or not, but as a long-time feminist, anyone even vaguely suggesting that a woman has brought a rape upon herself brings my hackles up.
My biggest concern is that in an environment where you are processing a lot of energy using a tool like EFT, you could inadvertently bring up deep emotional stuff for someone. Coupled with the "blame the victim" ("the world is a mirror") idea...well, you could end up upsetting someone very deeply. This could manifest as feelings of extreme guilt or worse coming up for the student afterwards.
I feel such blanket judgments on people are very irresponsible and one of the reasons why I am critical of the Law of Attraction. Sometimes bad things happen to good people, because, well, there are bad people in the world. I know that's not a pleasant thought, that we can't control everyone else, but it's the truth. The best we can do is try to protect ourselves. Take a self-defense class. Strengthen ourselves spiritually and physically. Get a deep connection with God.
Ultimately, your physical body is not who you really are anyway. As a spiritual being, your best defense against the problems of the world is to remember who you really are: an eternal being of love.
P.S. Here is an excellent article on this subject...this author speaks for me: